Honesty is the best policy.Is it true?

Introduction

As we become older,we become less honest. Have you ever thought why? According to me, the society we live in train us consequently to become less honest day by day. If you refuse then you will have to suffer.Just like a child who has to sing/dance just to impress the guests, if he does not then his parents will not be happy. You will be thinking why I am writing on these sensitive topics. But you know I have started writing this blog to bridge the gap between perceptions and reality. Sometimes I wonder why we are teaching this quote about honesty to our children in schools when these cannot be actually followed. Let us try to understand what keeps us away from being honest.

Social Media and Honesty

Let’s talk about instagram where we spend a lot of time nowadays. We normally post whatever we like, but what about the content we don’t like? In our minds,there is always this thing present that 1.If we post reality , then people will get the opportunity to talk rubbish. When we see people around, already somebody is suffering from some amount of humiliation by others or sometimes by ourselves. It can worsen the situation.

Life is not ideal for anyone. Everybody has his happy and sad days. But why we tend to show only the happy days. I have lived in US for almost 2.5 years but it was not like that I was happy 24*7 there.This is assumed by a lot of people.You must have seen my travel vlogs enjoying the time but you have not seen the bitter version when I used to think what to do the entire day. 2.We usually avoid posting sad content as it can create that gloomy vibe and people will skip watching that content.

When Expectations meets reality

It must have happened to you that if you try to become honest with someone,(3)people will distant you. We are not habitual of listening to honest words of anyone. Life is like a movie for everybody, if somebody just speak truth, then he is discouraged to continue. You will be provided with a number of other ways including lying just so that the relationships remain intact. But are they remaining? First of all it is not a relationship at all where you have to lie to make the other person happy. 4.)Honesty is not welcomed anywhere. We want to live in a world full of illusion.Although there are some exceptions.

The Older less-honest me

As I am used to, I narrates my own stories here. So let’s dig in, I used to be a people pleaser. If you ask any of my friend or any of my relative, they always were fond of me. But recently from some two or three years , my eyes keep on analyzing things. I do not know if this is because I have time in my life now. I have been observing people around me. Most of them are like speaking all the gentle words in the world on my face and when I see their deeds, it is the exact opposite. So when interacting with them, I had issues.I preferred to remain silent in those situations in my childhood. I used to get not offended by those deeds. At that time,(5) I used to feel a certain satisfaction by hearing those kind words that I am needed and useful.

But now the things have changed and I am mature enough. I do not want to feel that discomfort I am having interacting with such people. At some point of time,you will realize and can ask yourself why you are doing this when your own soul is getting irritated. It is true that honesty can hurt the other person. But I have understood that the other person will get hurt one way or the other. Even we are not hurting him/her by speaking on the front but if we are doing back-bitching. We are not doing any good to that person. What is the use of such relationship where you cannot express your views. There are less people around nowadays but also less discomfort.

Not justified with my views yet?There is more

There is certain amount of people pleasing traits in everybody. When your colleague says “Can you help me with this project” and you said yes, If this make you regret yourself then you are wrong here. Do not do any activity that you end up regretting later.Life is simple and easy that way. Believe me. It took me years to learn this simple thing and I am still learning.

Let me summarize some of the benefits of being honest here which I have realized over time:-

So considering this,can you start being honest to people around you ? I know it is difficult but at least we can try this in small proportions. For example, start being honest at least with those people first, who will never leave your side in life. And then with the less comfortable ones. Let’s make this world an easy place to live in . A clear and direct communication is essential in building strong relations.

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